GET A LIFE - Get Off Your Ass and Use Your Brains!
by Bobbie Ansari
Is it just my imagination or does it seem that more and more women
are getting useless degrees (like a BA in humanistic studies (aka an M.R.S degree)),
with no aspirations for grad school, and no idea what they want out of life?
All too often, their sole purpose for going to college is to meet "Mr. Right".
They wander aimlessly after college, work for a bit, eventually
land "Mr.Right", have a kid, and then postpone going back to work with the
lame excuse of raising a child. Lame because these parasites don't stay home
out of a strong desire to make a career out of parenting (like some women do), but because they are too lazy
to face going back to work. (And sadly, tons of these kids in the suburbs
grow up to be fucked up anyway, indicating that their mothers "staying in the home"
did not guarantee their emotional well-being.)
Inevitably, "Mr Right" goes a-cheating, divorce results,
and these women start WHINING about what they want, and try to clean out
the guy claiming that they can't find a job and that they've been out of
the job market and hence, their "skills" are out of date.
Excuse me?
What the hell were these women doing when they got married? Why did they
quit? Why couldn't she hand the kid over to the father when he came home
from work so she could go off and take night classes in order to keep her
skills sharp or just for the mere purpose of self-improvement and
education? What about day or correspondence courses while the kids are
in school? Why is that so many women think they can rest on their
laurels and be "looked after" as soon as they get married to a man who has a
higher income?
Why do women still insist on this "Prince and Princess" scenario that will
never happen, when in actuality there are NO guarantees in life?
By staying complacent and being "looked after", she has placed herself at the mercy of the
male, and come divorce time (OOPS, I forgot: "WE'LL be the exception to the
rule, we're going to make it, we'll be together forever...") she's left out in
the cold-- usually with the kids. Furthermore, it places the guy at a
disadvantage as well. By keeping her at the level of domestic servant, and
not encouraging her to go back to school (or to at least keep working),
he has guaranteed larger alimony payments will come out of his paycheck when divorce
strikes.
In short, they both dug their own graves by not recognizing that BOTH
partners need to grow and pursue their interests and goals separately. Just
because you're married, that doesn't mean you're one entity now, with the
same goals, dreams and aspirations. To paraphrase that German poet Rainer
Maria Rilke once said. "You are two distinct and separate entities that
border, salute and respect one another". What is up with this "fusion"
thing, "we are one" bullshit?
What is up with these female parasites that insist that the man must look
after them? To put it simply, no one's going to give you flowers in this
life, you have to grow your own garden.
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